Are you being truthful to yourself and those around you
about what you value and what is truly important in your life?
Do you know what you truly value?
Do you really?
I would ask you to spend some time thinking about your values.
Make a list of as many values as you can think of that are important
to you. Some examples would be: family,
security, faith, friendships, tolerance, optimism, respect, intelligence,
health, openness, love, compassion, etc., etc. Try to come up with at least 25 values
and write them out on a sheet of paper.
When you are done look carefully at that list and circle
YOUR top 5. There is no right or wrong answer
. What are the 5 MOST IMPORTANT
values to you?
Now, write the five down on a file card or fresh sheet of
Now, here is the tough part. Consider each value one at a
time and think of a couple concrete examples of how you bring that value to
life. How are you living that value?
Next, ask your spouse, another family member, a close
friend, or even a colleague to look at the list and ask them if they agree. Do
they see you living these values?
If you cannot come up with multiple concrete examples of you
living a value,
and/or if the person reviewing your list doesn’t see you living
a value, chances are you have a value on the list that is more of a wish than a
The what and how that you live every day really does tell
you which values are truly important to you on the inside. Again, there is no
right or wrong; no good or bad.
Now I am not saying that you cannot have values you aspire
to. And yes, you can change your behavior to incorporate other values. But how
you act today results partly from what you actually value; the real list and not
a wish list.
Knowing what you truly value (what you actually live) will
help you on your success journey. Truly successful people are authentic. They
know who they are; they know what they value; and they align their actions
They have taken the time to learn who they are and they have
organized their lives and behaviors around the values that are truly important
to them. They naturally bring energy and passion to everything they do because
they are living an honest life with themselves.
True success requires you to live in harmony with yourself. Everyone
has different top 5 values, and everyone lives those values in different ways.
But if you truly live your values, you will more easily find the success in all
areas of your life you desire.
You will exude a natural confidence and authenticity that
others will pick up on. You will become someone people want to be involved with.
Someone people will want to work with and help. Someone people will respect,
admire and maybe even emulate.
It all starts with authenticity. And authenticity starts
with knowing what you value and bringing those values to life and light each
and every day.